Tryouts are interesting, no matter the sport. They all share common elements.
When we first entered the world of tryouts years ago, I didn't know what to expect. My oldest was still quite young, and up to that point, we had only participated in recreational sports programs. Transitioning from recreational to competitive sports was a huge step.
That first year, we probably looked like fish out of water at the initial tryout. Despite studying and asking all the pertinent questions, there were still things we weren't prepared for, including the disappointment that comes with the process.
After many years as a Sports Mom and attending numerous tryouts, I’ve learned to focus on a few key things:
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Research beforehand: Talk to other parents to understand how many of your current team plan to stay or leave. As my athletes have grown, they’ve cared most about the coach and their teammates. The team name or tournaments matter less compared to playing for a respectful coach and alongside friends.
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Contact potential teams: Depending on the sport and rules, reach out to teams you’re considering. Ask important questions about travel, team fees, practice locations and times and the coach’s experience. If possible, attend a practice before tryouts to meet the team and coach and get a feel for the environment.
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Focus on the present: While planning for the future is important, living in the moment is crucial. Each year, our athletes have different needs, whether it’s focusing on specific skills or building stamina. Finding a good fit for our kids each year in their development and ensuring they still enjoy the sport is key. It’s easy to get caught up in scholarships and high-level teams, but too much pressure can lead to burnout.
By focusing on these aspects, we’ve managed to handle the “tryout drama” and inevitable changes. We joke about it, but I’ve been there, just like everyone else, trying to figure out who’s going where and who the coach will choose. It’s all part of the journey of being a Sports Parent.
There have been years when our kids didn’t make a team, which were tough in the moment but ultimately led to significant growth. Youth sports aren't one-size-fits-all; each athlete is unique with varying needs and desires that change over time.
It's not easy, but we are learning to take it one step at a time and find joy in each stage of youth sports. Looking back, I can definitely say it’s worth it. Sports have taught my kids resilience and how to handle disappointment. They’ve learned that they won’t like everyone they meet, but they must treat everyone with kindness and respect.
I am proud of the athletes they are becoming. Despite the challenges, I am thankful for the lessons tryouts have taught them.
